About My Last Two Posts

Alternate Titles: Kade Called Me Out, The Journal Lately

I’ve started this blog post a few times now. My google document is full of half paragraphs and unfinished sentences. I wanted to explain what inspired my post on February 11th (and the 12th), but I can’t seem to coherently string together my thoughts yet. Perhaps I’ll find a narrative that flows and come back to this in the coming days. In the meantime, here are the important bits. A creative outline if you will. I invite you to fill in the blanks as best you can. I suppose I am trying to do so as well.

What Kade Aplers said to me 3 days ago: 

When you talk about finding love again, you always talk about someone you already know or have already been with. Why do you think those are your only options? What makes you doubt that someone completely new, someone you haven’t met yet, would be interested in you?  (Kade is right. When I think about falling in love again, I immediately consider the “men-of-my-past.” To be fair, I have great taste and the “men-of-my-past” are not bad options… But I did not realize I was doing this so exclusively until 3 days ago)

A falsehood I tell myself: 

I can’t successfully seduce tall guys, or guys with facial hair, or guys in fraternities. 

A piece of relationship / relationship-prep advice I love: 

Make a list of everything you want in a partner, and then be that list.

Something that was easy to joke about but honestly hard to do: 

Write a list of reasons why I am a catch. Doing so by myself was especially challenging; I kept wanting to text my friends, my family, or even my exes, to ask why they think I am a catch.